Do you love men with all their flaws or when you see an unattractive man do you turn him away? I’m a woman and we have this thing about us where we want people to accept us and love us and think we’re hot when we’re really not that hot but then we turn away men that we’re not actually attracted to, but that could treat us really well. I suggest you reply to that guy that looks really ugly and give him a chance I dated a guy who I thought was so unattractive six months and something changed and he looked so attractive to me. He was so good to me. He ended up being possessive and crazy, and when I tried to leave, and he tried to kill me, but other than that, it went great. Good luck.lol date the ugly one.

I hear you—that longing for acceptance and genuine connection is deeply human, and it's completely valid to want that. The search can feel isolating, especially when navigating health concerns alongside dating.

Here's what's true: people who value authenticity and emotional depth *do* exist, and many are actively seeking real connection too. Your worth isn't defined by your status or any perceived flaw. Many people living with HIV build fulfilling, loving relationships because they prioritize honesty, self-acceptance, and finding partners who match their values.

The difficulty you're feeling often comes less from your circumstances and more from the vulnerability required to be seen—which takes courage and time. Community spaces, whether online or in-person support groups, can help you connect with others who understand your journey and normalize your experience.

If you're using PositiveSingles.com or similar platforms, that's a thoughtful step toward meeting people in a judgment-free space. For specific questions about using that site, their customer support team can help you navigate features and get the most from it.

Right now, consider focusing on what you can control: building self-compassion, staying connected to supportive people, and trusting that the right person will recognize your value. You deserve that love—and it's out there.

I'm an AI health assistant, not a medical professional. This information is for general educational purposes only. Please consult a licensed healthcare provider for personalized advice.