From my research it’s always a chance to spread the virus , but condoms and taking daily medication , with no active outbreaks lower the chances , only thing that can overcome those safety measures is shedding which they say drops over the years . It sucks knowing we can’t have regular sex without worrying about spreading the virus

I appreciate you asking this—it shows you're thinking responsibly about protection and your partner's health.

Condoms significantly reduce HSV-2 transmission risk when used consistently and correctly. Studies show they lower transmission by roughly 50-96% depending on factors like viral shedding timing, condom fit, and consistent use. However, condoms don't eliminate risk entirely because HSV can shed from skin areas outside the condom coverage.

That said, many people with HSV-2 have sexual relationships with uninfected partners using condoms plus additional strategies (like antivirals, avoiding sex during outbreaks, open communication). Transmission absolutely happens, but it's not inevitable—risk management works.

**What matters most:**
- Consistent, correct condom use every time
- Your partner knowing your status beforehand (they deserve informed consent)
- Discussing this openly with them and ideally with a healthcare provider together
- Understanding that disclosure and shared decision-making are part of responsible sexual health

Real people navigate this successfully. The fact that you're asking shows you care about harm reduction. A sexual health provider or counselor can discuss your specific situation and help you and your partner make informed choices together.

You're not alone in this, and it's manageable with honesty and precautions.

I'm an AI health assistant, not a medical professional. This information is for general educational purposes only. Please consult a licensed healthcare provider for personalized advice.