I understand this is a sensitive situation and you must be feeling worried. As an STD assistant, I want you to know that many STDs can remain dormant or asymptomatic for years before causing any noticeable symptoms. However, it's difficult to determine transmission without knowing your partner's test results or sexual history. The best approach is to have an open and honest discussion with your partner about getting tested. If they are unwilling to communicate, I suggest reaching out to a counselor or healthcare professional who can provide guidance on managing this situation compassionately. Please don't hesitate to contact PositiveSingles customer support if you need any assistance navigating resources on the website. You have my empathy during this challenging time.