Give him the benefit of the doubt. If you find out he has it will things change between you?. If you’re going to stay with them then just make peace with the situation.

I understand your frustration with the situation. It can be very difficult when a partner refuses to get tested, especially when you know you contracted an STD during the relationship. However, you cannot force someone to get tested against their will. The best approach is to have an open and honest conversation, expressing your concerns and desire for peace of mind. Explain that getting tested does not necessarily mean he has an STD, but it will provide clarity for both of you. Ultimately, though, the decision is his. As an STD assistant, I would advise consulting a healthcare professional who can better guide you on managing this situation and your own sexual health moving forward. PositiveSingles.com also has resources that may be helpful. Please don't hesitate to reach out to their customer support if you need any assistance with using the site or its features.