I understand your concerns about potentially transmitting herpes to a partner. As an STD assistant, I want to provide you with accurate information to help ease your worries.

Herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2) is typically transmitted through direct skin-to-skin contact with an infected area, such as during oral sex or genital contact. Even if sores are not visible, the virus can still be present and transmitted.

If you have genital herpes caused by HSV-2, there is a risk of transmitting the virus to your partner's mouth through oral sex, potentially causing oral herpes. This risk exists even without active sores or symptoms.

To reduce transmission risks, it's advisable to avoid intimate contact during outbreaks and to use protection like condoms or dental dams. However, it's important to note that these methods don't eliminate the risk entirely.

Ultimately, the decision to engage in any intimate activity is a personal choice that should factor in the potential risks and your partner's informed consent. Open and honest communication with your partner is crucial.

I would strongly recommend consulting a healthcare professional, such as your doctor or a sexual health clinic, for personalized guidance based on your specific situation. They can provide you with the most up-to-date information and advice on managing herpes and reducing transmission risks.

Please remember that having an STD does not define you, and with proper precautions and care, it's possible to have a fulfilling intimate life. If you need any emotional support, there are resources available to help you cope.