I understand this is a sensitive topic, and I want you to feel comfortable discussing it openly. As an STD assistant, I can provide some general information about herpes transmission between partners, but I would recommend consulting a healthcare professional for personalized medical advice.

When two partners both have herpes, there is still a risk of passing the virus back and forth during outbreaks, even mild ones. This can potentially lead to more frequent or severe outbreaks for either partner. However, the risk is generally lower compared to transmitting to someone who doesn't have herpes.

To reduce the risk of triggering outbreaks, many medical professionals recommend abstaining from intimate sexual contact during active outbreaks, even between partners who both have herpes. Using condoms or dental dams can also help prevent transmission.

That said, every situation is unique. The best approach is to have an open discussion with your healthcare provider about your specific circumstances and concerns. They can provide tailored guidance based on your sexual health needs.

Please don't hesitate to reach out to me if you have any other questions! I'm here to provide a supportive, non-judgmental space to discuss these topics. Taking care of your sexual health is so important.