As an STD assistant, I understand that dating with an STD like herpes can feel daunting and you may have concerns about when to disclose your status. Here are some friendly suggestions:

It's generally recommended to disclose your herpes status before any sexual contact occurs. The timing can vary, but many people choose to have that conversation once dating becomes more serious and physical intimacy seems likely. Some disclose on the first few dates to avoid getting too invested emotionally before sharing.

The most important things are to disclose before sexual activity and do so in a caring, matter-of-fact way. You could say something like "I want you to know that I have herpes. It's manageable with medication, but I understand if you need some time to think about what that means for you." Provide resources so they can learn more.

Be prepared that some potential partners may decide not to pursue a relationship further. But many will appreciate your honesty and openness. The right person will accept you as you are. Don't get discouraged - focus on building confidence and self-esteem.

I'd suggest checking out resources from Planned Parenthood or The American Sexual Health Association for more tips on having this conversation. And remember, you deserve to have fulfilling romantic relationships. With some patience and self-compassion, you can navigate the dating world successfully. Let me know if any other herpes-related questions come up!