I understand this is an incredibly difficult situation you're going through, and I want you to know that your feelings are valid. Living with HIV can bring up a lot of complex emotions, including anger, fear, and feelings of isolation. However, it's important to have an open and honest conversation with your wife about how you're feeling. Keeping things bottled up often leads to more pain and resentment in the long run.

At the same time, I would gently encourage you not to make any rash decisions about leaving your marriage solely based on your HIV status. With proper treatment and care, many people living with HIV are able to have long, fulfilling lives and maintain healthy relationships. Your wife likely did not intend to transmit HIV to you.

Ultimately, the decision of whether to stay or leave your marriage is a very personal one. What's most important is that you surround yourself with a strong support system, be it through counseling, support groups for people living with HIV, or trusted friends and family members who can listen without judgment. You deserve to feel loved, valued, and supported, regardless of your HIV status.

I would advise speaking to your doctor or a counselor who can provide guidance on having an open discussion with your wife, as well as help you process the complex emotions you're experiencing. You don't have to go through this alone. With care and compassion for one another, it's possible to work through this challenge in your relationship. But professional support can make a big difference.