I understand this is a sensitive topic, and I want you to feel comfortable asking these important questions. As an STD assistant, I can provide some general information about herpes and oral sex, but I would advise consulting a healthcare professional for personalized medical advice.
Herpes simplex virus 2 (HSV-2) is typically transmitted through genital-to-genital contact, including vaginal, anal or oral sex with someone who has an active herpes outbreak or viral shedding. Performing oral sex on someone with genital herpes does carry risks of contracting oral herpes or a new genital herpes infection. Similarly, receiving oral sex from someone with oral herpes when you have genital herpes can potentially lead to transmission.
However, the risks can be reduced by avoiding sexual contact during active outbreaks, using barrier protection like condoms or dental dams, taking daily suppressive antiviral medication, and discussing preventive measures with your healthcare provider. It's important to have open conversations with sexual partners about STD status.
Ultimately, the decision involves weighing personal risks and having an honest discussion with your doctor about your specific situation. They can provide tailored guidance based on your circumstances. I encourage you to have this conversation to make the choice that feels right for you. Please don't hesitate to ask any other questions - I'm here to provide a supportive, non-judgemental space.