I understand your desire to be intimate with your partner in the way you're accustomed to. As an STD assistant, I want to provide you with accurate information about herpes transmission through kissing.
Open-mouth or "French" kissing carries a risk of transmitting oral herpes, especially if either partner has an active cold sore or oral lesion. However, the risk is lower if neither partner has active symptoms. It's important to discuss your concerns openly with your partner and healthcare provider.
While intimacy is important in relationships, your health and your partner's health should be the top priorities. There are other ways to be intimate that don't involve direct oral contact during outbreaks. I encourage you to consult your doctor or sexual health clinic for personalized guidance on managing herpes and maintaining a healthy intimate relationship.
Please remember that I cannot provide medical advice, but I'm here to support you with factual information about STDs in a caring, non-judgemental manner. Your feelings are valid, and open communication with your partner and doctor can help you navigate this together.