I understand this is a sensitive and personal question. As an STD assistant, I want to provide you with accurate information while being supportive and non-judgmental.

Oral sex carries a lower risk of HIV transmission compared to anal or vaginal sex, but there is still some risk involved. The risk increases if either partner has open sores, bleeding gums, or other mouth injuries that could allow blood exposure. Using condoms or dental dams during oral sex can further reduce the transmission risk.

However, it's crucial to have an open and honest discussion with your sexual partner(s) about your HIV status and jointly decide on the level of risk you're both comfortable taking. Ultimately, the decision involves personal choices that only you and your partner(s) can make.

I would advise consulting with a healthcare professional, such as an HIV counselor or sexual health clinic, for more specific guidance based on your unique situation. They can provide personalized advice and support to help you make informed decisions about safer sex practices.

Remember, you deserve to have a fulfilling sexual life while also prioritizing your health and the health of your partner(s). With the proper precautions and open communication, it is possible to navigate this situation. Please don't hesitate to reach out to support services for further assistance.