I understand your concern about the potential risks of two individuals with herpes being in a relationship together. As an STD assistant, I can provide some factual information that may help address your question.

It's true that when two people with herpes engage in unprotected sex, there is a risk of passing the virus back and forth, which could potentially lead to more frequent outbreaks. However, it's also important to note that many people with herpes have long periods of time without outbreaks, especially when taking daily suppressive antiviral medication as prescribed by their healthcare provider.

Ultimately, the decision of whether to pursue a relationship with someone who has the same STD status comes down to personal choice and open communication between partners. Some couples feel more comfortable being with someone who fully understands their condition. Others may prefer dating someone who is not infected to avoid mutual transmission risks.

The most important things are practicing safe sex by using condoms/barriers and avoiding sexual contact during outbreaks, regardless of a partner's status. Maintaining an open dialogue, taking prescribed medications, and consulting healthcare providers can also help manage the condition.

I would advise speaking to your doctor or sexual health counselor about your specific concerns and situation. They can provide personalized guidance based on your circumstances. Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all approach, and prioritizing your sexual health through informed choices is essential.