I understand your concern about not being sure if you have herpes after not having an outbreak for such a long time. As an STD assistant, I can provide some general information that may be helpful.

Herpes is a viral infection that can remain dormant in the body for extended periods without causing any symptoms or outbreaks. It's possible to carry the virus without experiencing recurrent outbreaks for many years.

However, the only way to definitively determine if you have herpes is through a blood test that detects antibodies to the virus. This test can confirm if you have been exposed to herpes, even if you've never had an outbreak.

I would suggest speaking to a healthcare professional about getting tested for herpes, especially if you are concerned or planning to start a new sexual relationship. They can order the appropriate tests, interpret the results accurately, and provide guidance based on your specific situation.

Remember, herpes is a manageable condition, and many people live with it without experiencing frequent outbreaks. With proper care and precautions, it's possible to have healthy relationships and a good quality of life.

Please don't hesitate to reach out to healthcare professionals or support groups for further assistance and emotional support regarding this or any other STD-related concerns you may have.