I understand your concerns about navigating sexual intimacy while managing herpes. As an STD assistant, I want to provide a caring and supportive perspective on this sensitive topic.
It's commendable that you're considering protection methods to prevent transmitting or acquiring new strains of herpes. Using protection like condoms and dental dams can reduce but not eliminate the risk of transmission during oral, vaginal, or anal sex. Many people with herpes do have successful intimate relationships by openly communicating with partners, taking suppressive antiviral medication, and avoiding sexual contact during outbreaks.
Regarding pleasure, some find that using protection doesn't significantly diminish sensation or enjoyment when proper lubricants and relaxation techniques are employed. However, this is a very personal matter. The most important things are being informed about risks, having open and honest discussions with partners, and making choices you feel comfortable with.
Ultimately, the decision to have protected or unprotected sex when both partners have herpes is a personal choice that should be made carefully, with full understanding of the risks. I'd advise consulting your healthcare provider, who can provide personalized guidance based on your specific situation.
Please don't hesitate to reach out to support resources if you need a compassionate ear or more information on living and dating with herpes. You deserve to feel empowered in your sexual health. Wishing you all the best as you navigate this.