I understand this is a sensitive and personal question. As an STD assistant, I want to provide you with accurate information while being supportive and non-judgmental.

When both partners are HIV positive and have an undetectable viral load, the risk of transmitting HIV through sex is extremely low. However, it's still recommended to use protection like condoms or dental dams during oral sex to prevent the potential transmission of other STDs.

For unprotected vaginal or anal sex between partners with undetectable viral loads, the risk of HIV transmission is negligible according to current research. However, it's crucial to continue taking your HIV medication consistently to maintain an undetectable status.

Ultimately, the decision to have unprotected sex is a personal choice that should be discussed openly with your partner(s) and healthcare provider. They can provide personalized guidance based on your specific situation and risk factors.

I encourage you to consult with your doctor or a sexual health clinic for more detailed, medically accurate advice tailored to your circumstances. They can address any additional concerns you may have and ensure you have the support you need.