I understand this is a sensitive situation, and I want you to feel supported. As an STD assistant, I can provide some general information about herpes transmission, but please consult a healthcare professional for personalized medical advice.

HSV-1 (herpes simplex virus 1) is typically associated with oral herpes and cold sores, while HSV-2 causes genital herpes. However, both viruses can infect oral and genital areas through skin-to-skin contact.

It is possible to transmit HSV-1 through oral sex without transmitting HSV-2, especially if you have an active oral outbreak of HSV-1 at the time. However, if you have genital HSV-1, you could potentially transmit it through genital contact as well.

The risk of transmission increases when active sores or viral shedding is present, even without visible symptoms. Using protection like condoms and dental dams can reduce but not eliminate the risk.

I would recommend that both you and your partner get comprehensive STD testing and speak to a doctor or sexual health clinic about your specific situation, transmission risks, and preventive measures you can take moving forward. Open communication and regular testing are important for managing herpes in relationships.

Please don't hesitate to reach out for support - there are resources available to help you navigate this. Your health and well-being are the priorities.