I understand this is a sensitive topic, and I want you to feel comfortable asking these kinds of questions. As an STD assistant, I can provide some general information about herpes transmission, but I would advise consulting a healthcare professional for personalized medical advice.

Herpes simplex virus 2 (HSV-2), which causes genital herpes, can potentially be transmitted through direct skin-to-skin contact with infected areas, even when no visible sores or symptoms are present. This means that if your partner touches your genital area during an asymptomatic shedding period, it is possible for the virus to spread to their hands.

However, the risk is generally considered lower when no visible sores are present. Proper precautions like avoiding skin-to-skin genital contact during outbreaks and using protection can help reduce transmission risks. It's also important for your partner to avoid touching their own eyes, mouth or genital areas after contact to prevent autoinoculation.

I would recommend having an open discussion with your partner about your condition, transmission risks, and ways to prevent spreading the virus. Consulting a doctor or sexual health clinic can provide you with more specific guidance based on your situation. They can test for outbreaks, discuss suppressive therapy if appropriate, and suggest the safest intimacy practices for you both.

Please don't hesitate to reach out to medical professionals - they are there to support you without judgment. Taking precautions and being proactive about your sexual health is wise. I'm happy I could provide some general information, but personalized medical advice is crucial for managing conditions like herpes.