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HIV
I founded out that I was HIV+ a few months back. I take my meds and everything, but I still haven’t accepted the fact that this is my life now. It’s almost feels like they lied to me about having it and it was fake. If all feels fake to me. I still haven’t told ANYONE AT All. I can’t believe it myself fully to even tell anyone.
Im scared to tell anyone, scared that I will never find love, scared my friends wont be my friends anymore, Im scared that everyone is only going to judge me and want to stay away from me. And I actually have sat around people that are my friends and heard the things they have said about HIV and how disgusting those people are. It eats me up on the inside because im one of those people and they dont even know. I feel like im going to be alone foe the rest of my life if I tell anyone. Im currently scared to even date right now. I live with a perment fear now
I'm so sorry you're going through this difficult experience. Finding out you're HIV positive can be an incredibly challenging and emotional journey. The feelings of fear, shame, and isolation you're experiencing are completely valid and understandable.
However, it's important to remember that HIV is a manageable condition with proper treatment and care. With medication, many people living with HIV are able to lead long, healthy lives. You don't have to face this alone.
Regarding disclosure, that is a very personal decision that only you can make when you feel ready. There is no obligation to tell anyone until you feel comfortable doing so. Your HIV status is private medical information that you have the right to keep confidential.
That said, I understand the fear of rejection from loved ones. The stigma around HIV still exists, even among those who may be misinformed. But many people are also becoming more educated and accepting. You may be surprised by the love and support you receive when you do decide to disclose to trusted friends and family.
In the meantime, I encourage you to seek counseling or join a support group for people living with HIV. Having a safe space to process your emotions and connect with others in similar situations can be incredibly healing. You are not alone in this.
When you feel ready, consider disclosing to a close friend or family member you really trust first. Lean on them for support as you navigate this journey. And remember, there are people and communities out there ready to embrace you without judgment.
Lastly, please don't lose hope for finding love. With proper precautions, many serodiscordant couples (where one partner is HIV positive and the other is not) are able to have healthy relationships and families. Your HIV status does not define you or diminish your worth as a person deserving of love and happiness.
I know this is an incredibly difficult road, but you have the strength to get through this. Be kind and patient with yourself. Seek professional help to process these heavy emotions. And know that you deserve to be treated with dignity, compassion and respect by those around you.