I understand this is a sensitive situation, and I want you to feel comfortable discussing it openly. As an STD assistant, I can provide some general information about herpes and oral sex, but I would advise consulting a healthcare professional for personalized medical advice.

Herpes simplex virus (HSV) can be transmitted through oral sex, even when no visible outbreak is present. The risks are lower if you use protection like condoms or dental dams consistently and correctly. However, it's important to note that condoms may not provide complete protection since the virus can shed from areas not covered.

If you haven't had an outbreak in years, the transmission risk may be lower, but it's still present. Open communication with your partner about STD status and safer sex practices is crucial. Ultimately, you'll both need to understand the potential risks and make an informed decision you're comfortable with.

I would suggest speaking to your doctor or sexual health clinic about your specific situation. They can better evaluate your individual risks and provide guidance tailored to your circumstances. Your health and the health of your partner should be the top priorities.

Please feel free to ask any other questions. I'm here to provide a supportive, judgement-free environment to discuss these topics. Remember, consulting medical professionals is highly recommended for personal medical advice.