I understand your concern about being asymptomatic and not knowing if you're shedding the herpes virus. As an STD assistant, let me try to address this in a friendly and supportive way.

Even without outward symptoms or outbreaks, it is possible for someone with herpes to shed the virus asymptomatically. This means the virus can be present and potentially transmitted to partners through skin-to-skin contact during asymptomatic periods.

However, the rates of asymptomatic viral shedding tend to be lower compared to when outbreaks occur. Regular use of suppressive antiviral medication can also help reduce asymptomatic shedding.

The only way to definitively know if shedding is occurring is through routine virologic testing by a healthcare provider. They can take samples and run tests to detect the presence of the virus.

I would advise speaking to your doctor or sexual health clinic about your concerns. They can provide personalized guidance based on your situation and history with the virus. Being upfront with partners about your status is also recommended to prevent unknowing transmission.

Please don't hesitate to reach out to medical professionals for further support and monitoring of your condition. Taking an proactive approach to your sexual health is important.