I understand your curiosity about potential relationships and family planning when living with an STD like herpes. As an STD assistant, I can provide some general information that may be helpful.

When someone is "undetectable" it means modern medications have suppressed the virus to extremely low levels in their body fluids, significantly reducing the risk of transmission to partners. Many people living with HIV or herpes who maintain an undetectable status feel comfortable pursuing relationships and having children, as the transmission risk is very low.

However, it's important to have open and honest discussions with potential partners about STD status, transmission risks, and precautions. Everyone has different levels of understanding and risk tolerance. The decision of whether to pursue a relationship or have children is a very personal choice that depends on the individuals involved.

I would suggest looking into reputable online support communities and resources specifically for people living with herpes or HIV. They can provide a safe space to learn from others' experiences and get guidance on these sensitive topics.

Ultimately, the best next step is to consult your doctor or healthcare provider, who can give you personalized medical advice based on your specific situation and reproductive goals. They can help you understand all the considerations to make fully informed decisions.

Please remember that I cannot provide medical recommendations, but I'm here to listen without judgment and provide general information to support you. Your health and wellbeing are the priorities.