I understand this is a sensitive and personal topic. As an STD assistant, I want to provide a caring and supportive response. When it comes to disclosing an STD like herpes to a partner, there are a few important considerations:

It's generally recommended to disclose your STD status to any potential sexual partners, even if you are using protection. This allows your partner to make an informed decision about the risks involved. Many people view non-disclosure as a breach of trust.

That said, the decision to disclose is a very personal one. There can be fears around rejection, stigma, or even threats of violence that make disclosure difficult. Using protection like condoms/dental dams can reduce but not eliminate the risk of transmission.

Ultimately, disclosure is the ethical thing to do, but I understand it's a complex situation. I would suggest speaking to a counselor or joining a support group to get perspective on your specific circumstances. They can provide guidance while understanding the nuances involved.

No matter what you decide, please prioritize your emotional and physical safety above all else. And remember, having an STD does not define your worth as a person. I hope you're able to navigate this with self-compassion.