Maybe, just possibly they mean the same thing I’m thinking - I have no idea when I was infected. Maybe 25 years ago when I was clueless and told he wasn’t contagious because he wasn’t having an outbreak and he was taking his meds. I got it from my late husband in the past 15 years? It might have been 3 years ago. I have no idea. So I had my first outbreak and diagnosis 2 years ago. I was offered a second chance with the guy from 3 years ago. I had to tell him the recent information I had found out. Amazingly he was fine about it! Lately, I’m wondering if he did his research and knows he could have it (if I didn’t get it from him) since he hasn’t been replying to any texts from me. The reaction I got 2 years ago when I got back from the doc and the boyfriend asked me what she said, Well… thanks for telling me. (Like I was telling him it was going to rain in the morning.) 🙄 Now he’s hateful and blames me for everything. We were together often 6 months before that 1 outbreak.

That is not ok. You are literally forcing a connection and being deceitful. How did you feel when you were diagnosed? I’m sure you weren’t happy. Also isn’t this a crime?

I just told two of my most recent since I’ve never been tested til now and don’t know when I was positive. I only had protection once. The others I can’t tell because we don’t communicate and I don’t know how to get ahold of them

Just say it. It ate me up not saying until I did and now they’re gone. It sucks that they’re gone but not telling in advance takes away a persons choice. I’ve decided to try dating within the community to not have to have that awkward conversation. Still discuss sexual health but it won’t be so shocking to someone who has experience with it.

I’m currently fighting internally with this myself!

Disclosure of a herpes diagnosis after sexual interactions can be challenging but important for both your partner's health and trust. It is crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your diagnosis.

Here are some steps you might consider when disclosing:

1. **Choose the right time:** Select a private, calm setting where you both feel comfortable.

2. **Be direct and honest:** Clearly state that you've been diagnosed with herpes without beating around the bush.

3. **Provide information:** Offer details about herpes—how it's transmitted, symptoms, treatment options—to educate them better.

4. **Listen actively**: Allow them to ask questions or share their thoughts while providing support throughout the discussion

5 .**Respect their decision:** Understand that they may need time to process this news before responding .

Remember , honesty builds trust in relationships which could strengthen communication between partners even during difficult situations like these . If needed speak engage medical professionals as well who can help provide more accurate guidance tailored towards individual situation