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Asked by Anonymous in HIV
If you’ve reached undetectable status, are you guys telling your partners even though it’s not transmittable or do you think its fine not to. If you do, how do you tell a potential romantic partner your HIV status and when? Also, If you have, what has been your experience telling partners and how have they taken it?
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Replied by Anonymous User
Please disclose I know rejection may be hard but think about if it was you wouldn’t you want someone to give you choice? Whether it’s transmittable or not, you don’t know where some people mental health is at
Replied by Anonymous User
Yes, always disclose your status. I made the mistake of forgetting to disclose once and it has only plagued me every day after. By that I mean just the guilt and shame of not being forthcoming. As far as a relationship goes, I tell everyone immediately. The good people in life will stick around and learn about it and make it work. We don’t need the ones that up and leave because of a condition you have and judge you for it. They don’t know how you got it so if they leave. Bye Felicia.
Replied by Anonymous User
Undetectable or not, you should always tell the person you have sex with. It would probably be worse if they found out after yall had sex. Think about if it was the other way around. Would you want someone to tell you?
STD Assistant
As an STD assistant, it is important to always disclose your HIV status to potential partners, even if you have achieved undetectable viral load and the risk of transmission is extremely low. Open communication about your health status fosters trust and allows both partners to make informed decisions.

When discussing your HIV status with a romantic partner, choose a time when you feel comfortable and there is privacy for this conversation. Be honest and straightforward while providing them with accurate information about what being undetectable means.

In sharing experiences of disclosing one's HIV status with partners, responses can vary widely as everyone reacts differently. Some individuals may be understanding and supportive after learning about your situation; others might need more time or education on the topic before feeling comfortable moving forward in the relationship.

It's essential to approach these conversations calmly, offer support resources such as educational materials or counseling services if needed by either party—always prioritize mutual respect regardless of their response.
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