I met a man outside of the club. We hit it off. After about a month or so, I decided to lay it all out for him in a letter. It was one page, typed. I told him that I have herpes. I briefly described to him the consequenses of having sexual relations with me and contracting it. I also gave him resources so he could research it himself. I expressed to him that I was completely understanding about what choice he would make. I also expressed to him my personal experience with herpes and how it really hasn't affected my life outside of dating.
Well, he chose me. He said I was worth it. We are madly in love now and plan to marry and live happily ever after. Actually, he is the man of my dreams.. and I'm 31 years old, been around the block, didn't think he was out there.
Moral of the story: be honest in the right way, and at the right time. Be mature about it, present the facts, present your feelings, present the information, and be ready for rejection. You never know, you might just find the man of your dreams.
Thank you for bring it me back the hope, i am happier than ever.... I meet an incredible man in this site, we star emailing and texting, then we finaly meet and now we are making plans for pur future.... things happen for a reasoon we may never undertand but sold never stop looking for our happy ending...
I added him to my favorites, basically putting the ball in his court the last weekend in September of 2012. Him being curious, he sent an email. We exchanged numbers very quickly. We talked and texted, morning, noon, and night that whole week. Our first date was that following weekend in October 2010, dinner and a movie. He introduced me to sushi, he brings a lot out me and I love him for that. He proposed April 2, 2011. The wedding is set for September 22, 2012.
I am currently happy to have found someone from this site. We emailed for about a week before meeting, he sent me a photo as he didn't have one on his profile. I had expressed that a ferry ride would be too far away, but it was a ferry that was closer to me now, and also near to where I grew up.
He is friends with my cousin, which made him not a total unknown. He seems to like the same things I do, which is very important. He came to my home for our first meeting, which I understand is not to be done normally, but he seemed safe with his knowing my cousing, I thought it was OK. He is very normal, kind, and sweet. Not a topic at this early stage, but we did talk about how long he would have to be long distance due to his commitments at home. I think 2.5 years before he can be with me full time is OK as it gives us lots of weekends and holidays together to determine if it will be right for more commitment. I feel happy that I found someone like him, even without our std I would have looked for someone like him.I think your site is well done, and I was so impressed to find one like it as I had been devastated and thought life was over because I would never have told anyone I had an std as I live in a small town and everyone would know. Thankyou so much for having this site available to me, and I hope I won't need it again.
I joined PS with low expectations in terms of love and romance; NZ has a small population spread out over a huge area, and it would be unlikely to find more than companionship. I live in a very remote area - where EVERYbody knows everybody, no casual dating here! - and sure enough there were few on PS of age/region/personal compatibility. Actually, only one....................
So we corresponded for a while, but my marital situation was not finalised, so I pulled out. But then felt more final so reconnected briefly - and then, in confusion, said a final farewell to what was clearly a very good and decent PS lady. Hey, welcome to the Real Modern World of confused relationships...................
Eventually I pulled myself together and set Jan 1st 2012 as the First Day of my new life alone. I was honest to my ex that I would then move on - I may have Messaged, but I never Met, while the marital relationship was working its way out.
So, as a single guy, I rejoined PS and just sort of checked, had a sneaky peak: YEP, she was still there! So I said straightforwardly that I had been where I was, but was now single, we had done enough messages - did she want to meet? Sure \I knew she was a kind person; but after all my confusion (in which I had at least been honest), I was amazed that she agreed immediately.
We met in a park. Her hometown is 4 hrs from me (heck, I live 3 hours from a roundabout or traffic light!), so I parked my motorhome. It was a gloriously sunny day, I was early, took the dogs for a stroll. I was pleased to meet & chat to someone from PS, but had no nerves or excitement, as I had no expectations - I had been attracted by her kind words more than by her picture. So when a car pulled up next to my motorhome and an elegant slim blonde stepped out, I thought "Damn, I wish the girl I was meeting looked like that!!"
Then she called my name. Wow! OMG! Sunlight glinting through her blonde hair, red summer dress, warm welcoming smile.......
Well, you think we two, both over 50, should be smart enough to know better, and to take our time sensibly. Sorry to disappoint you folks, but We Knew. We knew within hours, if not minutes (she says that she knew instantly). Since then, only two months ago, she has downsized her job to spend more time with me (I am a pretty free agent), so living apart is an asset not a hindrance - I spend 4 nights a fortnight in the big city with her (theatres & live music) , she spends four nights a fortnight in my country home (horses & motorbikes).
So we have three nights a week apart, but talk, text and email all day; and can see our friends and do our own thing - she goes to Meditation and I go hunting hahahahaha! I never said we were exactly alike! But we get on like a house on fire, love each other to bits, will be living fultime in the country within two years and.......what was that? marriage? I have learnt my lesson: in Life, you never know; for sure I have an open mind.
So thanks, PS, two lonely people with fractured lives - are now living a wonderful, full, happy life together.
He is the most amazing man I have ever met!! We met over 18 months ago on this site but lost all but an occasional brief contact with each other. We, what I thought then, accidentally hooked up again in January of this year. We believe with all of our hearts, that "accident" was no accident at all. God answered our prayers. We both had been praying for mates, and both feel God has honored our desires !
Soon my new adventure will begin. I will be joining him in Kentucky to begin our new life together.
Our story: He reached out to me 3 days after I signed up (I signed up on February 9th, 2011 and he emailed me on the 12th). We corresponded for a few days and met in person at The Melting Pot on the 20th. That next week we went on our second date and he asked me to be his girlfriend. We are currently discussing moving to Australia together (I'm being transferred for work) and, yes, we have discussed marriage a time or two. ;-)
Because it all happened so fast for me, I'm not sure I can offer much by way of tips. We just happened to be ready to find each other and your site made that happen. When I was first diagnosed, I thought I'd never be loved again. I thought I was dirty and undeserving of a good man. With the help of the local support group and sites like yours, I have come a long way towards understanding that I'm just as deserving as anyone.
Speaking of another site, I do prefer the layout of your site much better. I also appreciate the freedom to talk openly with others on PS that is rumored to not be available on the other site.
I appreciate the follow-up.
Thank you! Here's a little more or our story. We exchanged winks and emails for about three weeks before meeting at Starbucks for the first time. After that, we went out on a couple of dates and he stopped calling. I thought "Oh well...I guess there was no connection there." It turns out I was wrong. Two months later he called me and asked if he could see me. I reluctantly agreed and went to see him with the lowest of expectations.
It turns out he had been dating someone and needed to end that relationship before he could "hopefully" start one with me. His only hope was that I would still be single. Well, we have been inseparable ever since. We have a baby now and have great plans for the future. Thank you PS, without your help I wouldn't have even tried having a serious relationship with someone for fear of rejection.
I had very little faith in this website to be honest with you, then started chatting with a man I met here. We wrote back and forth on the website, then started texting, then about a month in met. This sounds like the cheesiest story ever, but it was love at first sight. He and I have never been happier and I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with him.
We cannot believe we found each other here! but could not be happier about it.
This is my story. I've been engaged 3 times, married and divorced once, and I dated a pothead and an alcoholic (the cruel person who knowingly gave me HSV). I thought a life with love and marriage was over. No more dream, no more passion in my life. Rejection and humiliation instead were to be my bedfellows.
I was entirely wrong. By chance, I was advised to try this site in the hopes that I would meet someone nice with my condition and we could at least date.
Instead, I've found someone who matches me completely. I no longer need to wait for the man who will be with me and I with him. I feel elated, ecstatic, joyful. I can't wait to wake up in the morning, just bursting to talk to him.
If I had never been diagnosed, I would never have joined this site. I would never have had the privilege of meeting him. Thanks to this site, I'm no longer looking for the right guy. I found him.
I lived in Florida, he lived in Arkansas. We met on January 22, 2012. The first time we actually talked on a webcam, we have been inseparable since! We both had gotten diagnosed with Herpes and we both thought that we would never meet someone that shared and the same thing as we both did.
Now, 6 months later we are engaged and we plan on getting married, thanks to positive singles!
I met my soul mate on your website in May of 2011. We talked on the phone and texted for about 2 or 3 weeks and then decided to go on a date. We went to see a movie and then hung out at a beautiful park. It was the most effortless date I have ever been on! He is truly the most honest and caring person that I have ever met. And yes there are plans for marriage, but we aren't rushing anything. I can tell you that we have a ring picked out though :)
Thank you PositveSingles for having a revolutionary website where people in our situation can meet. Sincerely, Ashley
Me and my friend met here on this site. He sent me a wink and let me know that he only paid the membership fee so he could email me. I was flattered. Now I'm seeing him almost everyday. I couldn't be happier.
Yes. I have met someone from this website and I am excited to explore this relationship. The relationship is progressing. Thank you for having sites such as this! Please let me know if you have any questions. If things do not work out I will be back ;)
I did find the love of my life. and it was because of your site. it just wasnt someone on your site. He was my husband. And had he not realized I was on this site, we wouldnt have reconnected. So thankyou, we are both very greatful for your site. It gives those of us with a past hope for the future. And sometimes alittle hope can clear up a lot of missteps allong the way. Thanks for everything, Blondielocks