Thank you...we are very happy/excited to have found each other.
We exchanged emails for 3-4 days and then met for dinner at a local restaurant. Instant easy connection. Talked for 3 hours that night. Met for coffee a few times after that and have been texting/emailing a lot. No plans for marriage. Neither of us want to be married again but we are very much committed to what we have found and are building.
One tip I think would be offer to offer a 2 week membership maybe for $20 or something. I really think having a paid membership is what made the difference for me and sometimes people are nervous or unsure. Two weeks doesn't seem so bad or scary to try.
JohnJr65 winked at me! He later told me that he doesn't know what possessed him to wink at me with me living way down in NC. I told him that perhaps because I was born and raised in Maine, that that may've been why my profile popped up in his search.
JohnJr65 and I spoke over the phone for a month prior to our meeting. Our conversation just flowed, so naturally, like a couple of old friends. It was his suggestion that he make plans to travel down from Maine to meet me....though a few times he got a bit overwhelmed where I wouldn't hear from him for several days. As it turned out, he just needed time to think. Were the tables turned, I think I'd have done the same. JohnJr65 doesn't have any children and I have two boys. It's a lot to put on his plate, especially when he was previously married to a woman with two sons who deeply resented him. Needless to say, that marriage didn't work out because he and his (then) wife weren't unified and her boys divided them bitterly. For him this is dejavu all over again, EXCEPT that my boys are VERY respectful (as he found out).
I invited him down for Christmas and he came down. With my 82 year old Mother, who flew in from Texas to spend Christmas with us, JohnJr65, myself, my 19 year old son, Zack, and my 10 year old son, Sean, had the most BEAUTIFUL Christmas together. My boys took an instant liking to him and he felt right at home. My Mom fell right in love with him and he was calling her "Mom" in no time. They shared many laughs together.
He stayed with us for a total of 5 days, I believe. Before I had to roll back out (over the road driver), discussion had turned to him making plans to move down from Maine to start a life with us.
Well, he arrived back home in Maine and once again became a bit overwhelmed with planning a move. A few days had passed in silence while he took some more time to absorb the enormity of such a feat. When he finally called me, several days later, I told him that he was putting too much pressure on himself as none of the conversation of his moving was brought up by me (not that I didn't welcome the idea). I told him to just relax and take one day at a time. He's a "get 'r done" kind of man, which was quite apparent when we all arrived at my house two days before Christmas with not a decoration to be seen on display nor a gift wrapped. We all hit the ground running and within a day and a half, we had everything up, shipped for and wrapped ready to celebrate! What was so special was that although it was busy, straight out, it was all laughter and joy....no stress, whatsoever.
JohnJr65 originally wanted to be moved down within a month, or so, but we're now shooting for springtime....March or April. Moving isn't a matter of "IF", but "WHEN", as he has said.
I don't want to put the wagon before the horse, but I've made it clear to him that failure of this relationship is NOT an acceptable option for me. I have promised him that I will give 100% and he has agreed to do the same. We will approach all issues, pertaining to my boys, as a team and not allow either boy to manipulate one against the other. He may not be a dad, but he has SO much to bring to the table. My boys need a man to teach them how to become respectful young men, themselves. I love how he so naturally interacted with them. He was firm but yet allowed both of the boys to enjoy his presence, and he theirs. I have no doubt that we'll run into obstacles, but with open communication we should have no trouble overcoming them. I've told Bob (his real name) that I can't offer him a perfect relationship, as I don't believe such a relationship exists. But what I can offer him, at all times, is respect and tenderness.
Like I began to say, earlier, I don't want to be so bold by predicting what the future holds for us, but I wouldn't rule out marriage in the future. I've already told Bob that I want this relationship to be the last one for me. I want to commit whatever time I have left in this life to him.
The only pointer, or bit of advice I can give is for members to have plenty of patience. There are players and sleaze balls on the site, but there are also good, honest people with integrity....like my JohnJr65, giggle. You just have to be persistent. I've been Blessed...indeed.
Thank you, PS!
I found my soul mate who loves me completely for who I am. I am so grateful and happy for him and I thank God everyday. For everyone out there still looking, don't ever stop. When you find the one - YOU JUST KNOW. Good luck to all and have a happy new year!
We corresponded for about 3 days before meeting. We met on December 9th at a local restaurant. I took her out for dinner and drinks and we had a wonderful conversation. There are no plans for marriage since we've only been dating for a month, but we are certainly in a relationship and we are both very happy. Thanks for following up and thanks for helping us find a match!
I'm glad to share more details about my success story.
I found Dan during my search...his smile and caption on his profile page captured my attention. I sent him an email on my birthday. He replied the next day.
We spent a month corresponding via email, texting and phone conversation. We had a strong connection from the very beginning, but developed a phenomenal bond and friendship during this time period.
Although we were very eager to meet, it was a difficult time for Dan because he was in the midst of a move, a big transition. Late one night, as my shift ended at work, we spontaneously decided to meet...our mutual excitement got the best of us! We met at a bar/restaurant and closed the
We continued talking in the car. All the stars aligned, we confirmed our powerful connection. We have been inseparable since, spending as much time with each other as our lives will allow, forming a deeper bond at every occasion.
Dan is the love of my life, my very best friend, and has been worth the wait. We are taking things slow, as our lives need, but so much to look forward to...no doubt, we will someday blend our lives fully, marry, and spend the rest of our days loving and supporting one another completely.
It's been a long journey for me, meeting and dating many others. I feel so fortunate that I've found my match, and am grateful to have been a member on your site !
Thank you for your hard work and effort put into a very professional dating service...
Sincerely, (very happy customer:)
I finally found an all around women who has made my life complete. Thank you guys for creating a site where others living with the virus can meet, go out. & build a fulfilling life to tackle the everyday challenges we face living poz. Again, I say thank you.
I have found someone very special through Positive Singles. We felt a connection on our very first date and have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now. A big part of the problems in the past relationships has been my positive HSV-2 status.
Having met someone who I do not have to have 'The Talk' with is a huge relief and allowed us to be truly comfortable with each other and begin our relationship with a shared level of trust and understanding. Thank you Positive Singles and I hope others can find someone through your site too.
Hello! I have currently been dating my boyfriend for 4 months. He is amazing. I've never been able to find such a wonderful guy on my own. I owe this site everything. We have a million plans for the future. Thank you so much for helping me find the most wonderful man I have ever met
I've found a beautiful girl that I'm just crazy about! I think we really have something special. I'd be happy to share my story and help encourage others to keep looking. Please let me know if there is any way that I can help!
Thank you. Well, before meeting one another, we probably talked on the phone for about a month, a month and a half. From the first conversation, we clicked, and whenever we'd talk again, it would be for long periods of times.
When we finally decided to meet (she was real amazed at the fact that I thought so diverse and how that's what she was looking for) we meet down by the new Barclays Center in Brooklyn. Then we went to a little spot to eat and caught a political flick at B.A.M (Brooklyn Academy of Music). We even got "Hurricaned-in" together during Sandy. Lol...
But as far as marriage, not yet. We want to keep everything new and free. But the interest is sky high.
As far as tips for the site, ummm...I think that maybe if you all made easier searches for religious matches, that that would help. With a lot of people, they want to be spiritually connected as well. And maybe some free trails for beginners. But overall, the site is great and I, we, appreciate it a million times over.
I gave the site a months trial and found it very informative and educational. it spurred me to find out more about my condition and have met people in the same boat as myself. I have also learnt a lot about my condition. I think this is a really valuable service though and would recommend it to anyone else that finds themselves in my position in the future.
It is a very helpful site that helped me build my confidence back up and realize I was not alone. I was able to find a few friends on the site and an individual not on the site that is extremely supportive and accepting of everything! It's nice knowing that there are people out there who have had to deal with the same things. Life is a struggle sometimes but you need to keep your chin up and move on!
I just wanted to say that I appreciate this dating site so much. I am in a great relationship with someone I meet on PS. I have said, "I'm sure glad I got herpes!" Because I would never have met him.
I'm also glad PS was there for me to use as a tool to build my confidence back when I felt alone. Without PS, I would not have been dating, and I would not have found him. I have you to thank as one of the reasons my life is the best it's ever been. Bless You! Nikki
You helped me find my special someone! Thank you!!
We started talking about a week before we met for the first time. Both being paint ball fans, it was a paintball date followed by a romantic night in. After we met it did not take long for me to realize that she was some one I wanted to make a part of my life. Unfortunately, it is hard for me to be critical of your site considering the success I had with it! Lol
If you have any further inquiries please do not hesitate to email me back! Sincerely, Sent from my iPhone
I first made contact in April of 2012. We dated for about a month before she went on assigment to the Bay Area for work. We reconnected on November 10th, and it seems quite evident that we are both focused on each other.
When we first began corresponding she was working in the Atlanta area. We exchanged several emails, and then talked by telephone for a few weeks until she completed that assignment. It was at that time when she came back to Arizona that we started dating.
I have no suggestions on how to improve the site. Thank you for providing this valuable service! Yea!!! Regards, John
I truly enjoy the connections I have made via PS. When I first tested positive, I was depressed. I felt like dating was hard enough and now I have another battle to deal with. I felt like no one would want me; I felt like damaged goods. My mother said "Well your generation does everything online, I bet there's a dating site just for people with herpes" And to my surprise there was!! I felt such relief in finding this site and was so pleased with the responses on here. Its more than finding love, it truly is finding support. Having someone to talk to is such a stress reliever and is encouraging.
I met a beautiful man on this site and although we are no longer together (the recession hit us both pretty hard as far as unemployment and took a toll on our relationship) but he is still the greatest friend. He, like me, had the first initial outbreak and never had another. I felt like I found someone just like me. Sometimes we fail to realize every connection is not made to be permanent but sometimes help us discover ourselves, and almost acts like a mirror and causes us to reflect. Without this site, and without him, I wouldn't be as confident in myself, my condition, or in life in general.
My success story is finding true love and most importantly friendship. I learned to love myself and trust me, the friendships grow with such love of self. I wish anyone
that they find peace as I have. And I want to thank this site for existing.
Good morning, I will share some details. I am in an exclusive relationship with a woman I met on PS!
We corresponded for probably two to three weeks via email, then for a couple of weeks by phone. After that we arranged a meeting. My match is over 250 miles from me so travel has been a big part of keeping together.
I visited her in her town for a weekend after about a month and a half of corresponding. There are no concrete plans right now, but both of us went on PS looking for a long term and serious commitment.