I was browsing all my California matches and a guy playing guitar caught my eye. He was also very close geographically, so it was perfect. Neither one of us was a gold member but we wanted to meet so much that he paid the membership just to be able to contact me. And the rest is history...
We are very happy with each other and that PS made it possible for us to find each other.
I never thought I'd find someone.. but the day I felt the saddest about my diagnosis I went on the internet and looked for some kind of help . I found this site & honest to god I found THE ONE. I am so thankful for positivesingles.com . Thank you, thank you, thank you x a million
Found someone amazing.
She sent me a wink on June 30 of this year. I wasnt going to respond because I was about to put dating on hold until I cleared up some things in my life. But I read her profile, really liked it, and thought "why not?". So, I winked back... not really thinking anything about it. We then exchanged a few emails and pictures the next day, and it all felt really good. The next day we talked on the phone for an hour and it felt even better. It was immediately apparent that we thought about, and approached, life the same way. We decided to meet for lunch the very next day... so, I think it was four or five days after she winked, we met for lunch near my office downtown.
There was immediate chemistry. We met two more times that week and then I had a planned vacation... so we chatted the entire time I was away. We moved to texting instead of through PS because it was just easier/quicker. And since then we have just gotten closer and closer. Haha... there is no plans for marriage (per your email question). We have both definitely fallen in love, but are in no hurry for anything more than enjoying the moments and time together.
I want to thank Positive Singles. Making connections like these is nearly impossible in life as it is... then you throw on top of it previous divorce/separation and the conditions we all carry with us (on the site) and it can seem hopeless. It is still early in our relationship, but I think she is the "one"... and I found her on PS (well, she found me. lol). Thank you!
As far tips for the site. I think being able to see who has viewed you is key and I would suggest making that a free feature. The design is a little cluttered (Im a site designer) and isnt immediately intuitive. I didnt mind paying for your service. It seems a bit steep, but I suppose it does weed out the non-serious members.
As far as observations that may or may not be useful to other members. Profile pics were somewhat important to me. But I understand with the nature of this particular site that people might not want to display their photo. I had no problem talking to some that had no profile pic on the site. But I wanted to see pics fairly quickly upon meeting. Not to be shallow, but there has to be a physical chemistry. The actual written profile was the most important. Seeing how someone communicates through words. How they describe themselves. Etc. That made the biggest impact for me.
I met a really great guy on this site . he is amazing and we are becoming great friends and falling in love. so what more can I say, I look forward to having a best friend and lover.
Thanks for your wonderful site. keep up the great work . We need sites like yours ...
It started by him contacting me and we emailed back and forth for a while then we exchanged numbers and we texed for a a month or two and then we finnaly went out on our first date (dinner and a movie) and then every weekend after that we were together. Now that we have introduced each other to our kids and family we are together all the time. We have only been together for 3 months so no talk of getting married yet but I do believe it will happen. He is the sweetest guy ever.
It was a success story! We hit it off from the first date and are very happy together. I'm a little surprised and very pleased that everything worked out so well from using this site--I would recommend it to others,and give the advice to stick with it and don't be afraid to reach out to those you're interested in...you never know what may happen!
I have met what may be the love of my life. We are compatible in every way. He's is smart, driven, compassionate, business-minded, and sexy. What more could a girl ask for.I appreciate the service you provided. This site enabled me to feel normal after my diagnosis and to be assured that I was not alone. Great service!
Just wanted to say...after a couple years of using the site...met some fantastic people. It worked for me. You must not give up too soon. It is not overnight..but in May 09 we met, and we are still together. Living together. We both have STD: Herpes, and if not for Herpes....we would have never met! How strange is that? I love him lots, and he feels the same.
I wish everyone out there could find the same!
Roger and I corresponded about a month before meeting. We met in late May and keep in touch daily. He is a truck driver so he arranged some off time so we could meet. We both have been married before so we are taking our time to really get to know one another. We have no immediate plans for marriage. We are very compatible and are already very good friends which we both feel is a necessary foundation for a stable relationship.
at first i was skeptical. but i decided to give it a try. i wasnt "looking" for a man. i let HIM look for me. i went about my daily life and volunteered and worked my job and had hobbies. i didnt let the std define who i could be. than, my boyfriend of many happy months now, messaged me. he thought my job and what i did was cool. we didnt rush things. we continued to talk. we exchanged numbers, a talked for a couple more months. we sent pictures back and fourth. than, i forgot what sparked the idea, but we finally decided to meet. we met up at a park in the city i live in, and we went for a long walk together and got to know each other. we walked up to dairy queen and got some ice cream. seriously, their was chemistry right away. we went and saw a movie at the end of the night. we continued to take it slow, but pretty soon we made it official. positive singles takes away the awkward embarrassing story you have to share with your partner about having a std, because you meet somewhere whos been there, done that. i honestly could not ask for better or have been happier. by the third day we were official, he took me to meet his family. but remember, dont look so hard. let them find you. just be yourself and continue your life as you would without the std. if your a guy, dont just look for a girl to hook up with...be looking for that special girl you would want to meet your family and share with the world. i am so in love now and his family loves me and my family loves him. its for real. try the site and be serious. but remember, slow and steady wins this race. its all in the patience. xoxo guys. i wish you all the very best.
It would be nice if the non-paying members were able to view those who lived closest to them. I found it difficult to find people who lived close to me so I went on here a lot less. Also if you were only able to view those with the same "positive results" as you I think that would be a little more comforting to know. A lot of people are embarassed and probably are more reluctant to put up a photo if they know the entire site will be able to view them and their personal business.It would also be nice to be able to view the full answers on the Q & A section even if you're a non-paying member. Other than that I'm extremely happy that I was able to find this site. Definitely gives a lot of people hope who otherwise feel hopeless, lonely and isolated by their condition. I've tried to date normally with the hopes of revealing myself later on after getting to know someone and hoping that I was lucky enough to find the right guy with the right attitude who didn't mind. This left me with extreme anxiety, as I would constantly be dreading "the inevitable conversation" and dwelling on what they would say and how it might make me feel. It was a scary and very uncomfortable feeling. Now being with someone from on here none of that is the same...it's a wonderful feeling of freedom that I haven't felt since I was first diagnosed positive, so I THANK You from the bottom of my heart :)
I met the most magnificent man of PS. It's been two years now and I'm still as excited to see him as I was the first day we met. He's amazing and he's helped me see my worth, something no one else has ever done. I love him with all my heart and I can't wait until the next time I see his face.
Yes, you can meet and fall in love with someone over the innretet just as easily or if not easier than meeting someone in everyday life. The innretet makes it easy for people who are normally shy in person meeting the opposite sex. I am very shy when it comes to meeting or talking to men in public. The interent makes it easy for me to talk to and be myself without being nervous. As long as you take your time getting to know someone and are always honest, you too can find love, no matter where you met them. Good luck
I did the online dating because I was not going to find the man of my dreams in a bar. We lived 40 minutes away from each other so in the beginning it was very nice that we had that distance made for some long telephone conversations and we did get to know each other very well. As time went on we moved in together (after a year and half dating) and just were married this past July 15. It can happen you just have to be honest. Good luck!
Met a recommended member (a few miles outside our intended search radius) and we started exchanging emails on 7/7/12 until we agreed to meet for coffee, which turned into a 5 hour coffee-dinner-coffee get acquainted session and we were smitten. Followed up with more messaging and with another date which convinced us we were "The One for one another"!
It took me about a year, but I met a wonderful lady on this site. We're a couple of single parents with full-time jobs, who exchanged e-mails for quite a bit of time before we met, but grew into a very happy relationship.