I got a return wink/email on the 6th of July from my wink i had sent a few weeks before. He said he liked my comment on being a "Ms. Doubtfire and not a desperate housewife".
We communicated quite a bit every day, and into the night most nights. He was very shy at the beginning, but I told him that wouldn't last around me. I think he would agree to that now.
We talked on the phone, did a lot of text messaging and just felt like we needed to meet even though the distance between us was quite a bit more than I had originally wanted. It did interfere with us getting together very often, but we make the best of all the time we have together.
We had our first meet and greet on July 19, 2009.
We started our date with a knowing smile across the parking lot and a huge hug at the Harley shop in Lacey, WA , and then a motorcycle ride on his Harley. On our ride out of town through the beautiful Olympia area, he had his elbow resting on my left knee, and he just reached down and patted my shin, and a peace came over me that I could hardly describe, and I felt like he was the reason that I had finally came back to Oregon after being gone to Oklahoma for over 9 years. It was a glorious feeling, and he said he felt like I was an extension of him on the bike. He enjoyed the back and shoulder massages I was giving him too. It was a perfect way to start the relationship and the day.
We drove around Olympia sightseeing (lost LOL) for a while in my car, since I am from the Portland,OR area and had never been in the area before.
We ended up at the mall (finally), shopped a bit, talked non-stop, grabbed a late lunch and then went to see a movie in the mall.
We had a great day, and was going to end it with dinner at a restaurant but they had about a 45 minute wait. So we opted for the homemade chocolate chip cookies and ice cold milk I had brought with me, and ended our date 9 hours later enjoying them off the trunk of my car. He got to take the leftovers home with him.
We both felt like we had met the perfect person, and wondered where we had each been all our lives.
We have had a wonderful time getting to know each other, talking for hours, traveling together, camping, four wheeling, going to the beach, Central Oregon, seeing Mt. Hood and sharing all the ups and downs that normal life has to hold.
Neither one of us felt like we had to impress the other one, or be something we weren't. We have been able to be ourselves, and we love doing things together not just to make the other one happy or please them by our sacrifice.
We are both in our late 50's, it's still a learning process but we and both looking forward to "Happily ever after."
Not having to have the sex talk because of this site made getting together really easy. We still talked about it and the fears it holds being infected, but it was not an awkward situation like regular dating is.
My advice to everyone is to be open honest up front, then you don't have to apologize later or cause mistrust so early in the relationship. If they don't listen, care, and understand, then they aren't worth your time anyway. Take things slow, don't jump to conclusions, give the other person the benefit of the doubt and a second chance, and think outside of the box on how this person could fit into your life. They may not fit your profile exactly, but they may be just what you need.
Thanks to Positive singles for this portal of available people that have not given up on life and are not hiding in the corner thinking it is all over. It was a very Positive experience, and I will highly recommend it to any one I know that needs this kind of site.
I'll let you know if any marriage plans come up, and we will send pictures.
We corresponded for a few weeks before we decided to meet up. I drove to see him because he lives about an hour from me, and he took me out. We looked at each other and knew right away we belonged together, we have been official for almost a month, which isn't long but we have long term plans, we have fallen in love and we both thank positive singles for helping us find each other!
When S and I first met, I was staying with family in Michigan for a couple months and he lived in NC. The first night we met there was a great connection and we chatted online for hours. Then we talked almost everyday online or on the phone for a couple of weeks. He got really busy with work doing 12 hour shifts 5 days a week and we didn't talk as much, just an occassional text message.
We did talk about meeting when I got back to North Carolina. When I got back home (NC) I let him know that I would be in his area for memorial day weekend. I called him when I got into town to visit friends and we made plans to get together. S and I met at a restaurant/bar. We spent a few hours together and definitely had a connection. When we left for the night he told me he broke his cardinal rule and kissed me on the first "date." The next day we met again and walked around local gardens and went to lunch. I went back home that day (about 2 hours away) and we talked on the phone for a few weeks until he got busy again and I started a new job.
We both knew the 2 hour distance was difficult and I think between the distance and us both being busy, we didn't put the effort in to make it work during the summer. I started seeing someone a few months later. We went most of the summer not talking much at all until S got a facebook and sent me a friend request and we sent a few messages back and forth just catching up. Finally, the week before Thanksgiving, I had just ended things with the guy I was seeing, and I was on facebook and S sent me a chat asking if I was seeing someone because it had been so long since we talked. I told S that I had been seeing someone, but we were done now and S told me he would be in my area for a week during Thanksgiving visiting his mom and asked if I wanted to get together. He also said if we didn't get together this time when we were 20 miles apart, we would never get together any other time. We made plans to meet for drinks and a movie the night before Thanksgiving. We talked on Thanksgiving before I had to work that night. The next night we met for dinner and he came over to my place and we watched a movie. The following day we spent together as well. From there on out we talked every day and I went to his house to stay with him the following weekend. S came to see me the weekend after that, met my friends and they all loved him! He stayed with his mom for a few nights while I had to work and I went to his Mom's to meet her. He then extended his stay with me for the rest of week, went home for a few days and was back in my area for the holidays. My Mom came into town from Michigan and met S and one day he and his Mom came over and our Mom's met! We have spent time together almost every week despite our 2 hour distance between us. We have talked about me moving there in a few months. Things have be going exceptionally well and I think we both feel great about this relationship! No talks of marriage yet, but his mother has told me on several occassions that this is the first time she has ever heard her son discuss having children someday. She said he never even brought the topic up before.
Everyone is cheering for us and both of our families have mentioned howhappy we both seem and that there is a "spark" about us. We both have discussed how different things feel with each other than either of us have felt in past relationships. I feel like I have known him a lifetime! The timing of our relationship just makes me feel like things were meant to be. Everything just fell into place this time around with us meeting. Who could have thought that something so positive came from such an awful event in either of our lives! It may have taken us a few months before meeting, about another 6 months before meeting again, but the second time around for us was a charm! Thanks for being the reason we are together today!
I have met someone on the site and it has been a while that we have been dating. It has become serious and we will be in a committed relationship. I am so very thankful for this site. And meaning well, I hope I am finished with it and have finally met my match!
Again, thank you soooooo much!
Countryboy2003 (Ed) and I e-mailed and spoke on the phone for about six weeks before we met in person. I hadn't seen a close up photo of him before we met, but his personality shined through in e-mails and phone conversations. I knew from the laugh that came up from his toes and his caring, gentle nature that I would like him regardless of physical appearance. I was pleasantly surprised to find that he is as attractive on the outside as he is on the inside. Our first meeting in Burns, Oregon, in July 2009, was fun, relaxed and oh so pleasant. We were amazed at our compatibility and almost immediate comfort level with each other.
Love has found us, and we're trying to figure out how to best handle the 400+ miles between his home and mine. We're talking about my moving his direction at the end of this year. Marriage? Well, we haven't discussed that yet. However, after the miracle of finding this incredible man, nothing would surprise me! Thank you, Positive Singles!
I hope members who have decided against meeting someone long distance will reconsider. There's no telling where you will find love. :-)
Well he wrote me first online and I responded to him a few times, then we decided to switch personal email addresses. A couple weeks after chatting on yahoo messenger, we decided to talk to the telephone. We talked on the phone for two weeks and decided to meet. He drove from his hometown which was about four hours away to meet me. There was just a strong connection over the phone that I wanted to see if there was any chemistry. To my surprise he is the perfect match for me. I am head over hills in love with him and we plan on him moving to my town to go to school and move in together. It does look like there will be awedding in the horizen. We have went looking at different engagement rings. I want to thank your site because I am so shocked that I have found my true love. He means everything to me and I almost missed out on finding him because I was afraid to sign up for your website.
We met on-line through PositiveSingles.com. We immediately started communicating daily. We found out that we were neighbours. Unbelievable! When we met in person about a week later, we knew that this was meant to be. We are truly thankful that this website has provided the means to find a perfect match!
It is with great pleasure that I respond to your message requesting more details about our great news of making a connection via your site. I am happy to report that a shining light has risen out of the depths of immense hurt and pain associated with a positive diagnosis of HIV. My guy, also HIV positive, sent me a message on November 30 via your site indicating I was attractive. After reviewing his profile, I responded the following day to indicate I would like to get to know him better. From those initial emails, we exchanged more photos, email addresses, and eventually phone numbers. I believe our first telephone conversation lasted 6 hours!!! We could not believe the chemistry we had, our amazing connection, and our willingness to talk and share. We were such comminicators and both willing to be vulnerable and put our shields down to explore this gift that was placed in our paths. Having both experienced past hurt, we were a bit hesitant to trust initially but we feel we have the right recipe for a successful relationship. Communication is the main ingredient and we are so respectful of the other. We are nearly 700 miles apart as he is in Texas and I am in Georgia but we have looked past that and did not let that stop us. After many hours of talking, emailing, texting for more than 3 weeks, our plans to meet in person came together. Initially we planned on December 21. It seemed like forever especially when this date was pushed back to December 23 due to unexpected work obligations. Upon arrival to Georgia from Texas after a 10 hur drive, my guy went to his hotel where we chatted briefly by phone and confirmed our plans to meet later that evening at Maggiano's Little Italy an Italian restaurant in Atlanta. We both admitted to butterflies but we were prepared that we had nothing to lose as friends was the prize if there was no love connection.
At 730pm, he was waiting outside of the restaurant for me as I parked my car. As I walked up the sidewalk toward him, he began walking toward me. There was no need to describe what the other would be wearing, we just knew. Our smiles reached each other long before our arms locked and we embraced and took pleasure in our long-awaited and anticipated hug. I fit in his arms perfectly and I really knew this was good. Our hug must have felt good as a complete stranger walking toward the restaurant indicated she wanted a hug like that too. We laughed and thought she was joking but she said she was serious. So we gave her a group hug. I think that was a sign our embrace was real and meaningful and it showed.
We had a wonderful visit (he stayed 3 days) and cannot wait to plan our next visit. We talk in detail about our future together and what it will take to remain as happy as we are. We are both committed to one another and have removed ourselves from the dating sites to focus solely and exclusively on one another. Although the distance makes our hearts yearn for one another even more than before, we will work through that until we finalize the logistics. We are both certain distance will not be a factor soon.
Thank you for the venue to make this happen. We were both on other single dating sties previous to our positive diagnosis and did not imagine that we would meet such a perfect connection via your site.
I would like all the ladies of this site to know there are still wonderful men out there looking for your wonderful self. If you are truly looking for a life partner and are serious about a committed relationship, whether male or female, it can be found here. We are very happy and look forward to sharing our lives together. Thanks Positive Singles.
Thank you for the congratulations. I came across "Lynn12"'s profile on your website a few days after becomming a Premium Member. I read her profile and liked what she had written about herself. Neither of us had posted pictures of ourselves. I reached out with a simple email and she responded favorably. We traded emails over the week and I invited her to play golf with me on Veteran's Day at a course near both of our homes. We discovered we actually lived near each other and that we both shared the same deep concern about our privacy due to the very public nature of our jobs and our own personal regard for privacy.
We met and played golf on a warm and beautiful fall day and we enjoyed very easy and good-natured conversation getting to know each other a little bit. Of course we had several good laughs (my golf game will make anyone laugh) throughout the afternoon. Afterwards, we talked or texted on our cell phones a little bit. Our second date later that week was instrumental to our relationship. We had dinner at a cozy Italian restaurant in downtown Tucson and later walked to a Poco concert near the restaurant. We enjoyed a very fine evening together and I felt a strong connection that evening. We have enjoyed quality time together ever since.
We have gotten closer to each other every day since then. We have also gotten to know each other better and have discovered many things in common in our personalities and lifestyles. At this point, we have not discussed marriage in anyway however, we have committed ourselves to our relationship. We have found that we are very well-suited for each other. We have spent a great deal of time together and have talked about many things. She is very easy to talk to and has the best personality I've ever come across. On top of everything, I am deeply attracted to her physically and simply admire her for her inner strength and her persistence in everything she does. She is very much what I had always hoped to find in a companion and I am simply amazed that I found her on your website. If ever there was a reason to celebrate the fact that I have herpes, this is it. If I did not have this condition, I would never have been compelled to find your website and obviously, I would not have likely found her. When I joined your site, my enthusiasm was very low and I had just about given up hope for ever finding special someone.
My gratitude for your website/services is immeasurable and I would encourage anyone seeking a companion to consider your website. While it may not help everyone find a connection with a special person, it made a huge difference for us and for I'm sure for many others. Again, we are both very happy that Positive Singles was available to help us find each other.
Thank you again for your interest in our story. I sincerely appreciate you all being a key to our relationship.
I met her on PS!
She emailed me last new years day. We emailed for 2 months before she moved here to Seattle. From the first email, I knew I was going to Marry her. Our first date, when I saw her I knew she was the girl I dreamt about since I was a young boy. I was so crazy about her. I was too much to handle and after 8 months she broke up with me. She couldn't believe that someone could be so in love with her. She didn't feel she deserved to be loved that way. And if I was duping her she wouldn't know till I broke her heart, just like all the other guys did before me.
She pushed me away hard enough that I lost faith in my dreams and what I knew was true .
I was to the point of moving on and put my personal ad back up on PS. She had told me to move on, and that we were not going to get back together. I couldn't believe this was the way it was all going to end. I did not want to move on but I was heart broken and with the holidays I didn't want to be alone.
I received some emails from some nice young ladies but I just wasn't ready to be with another girl. I really just wanted a distraction to take my mind from her. ...Well she found my personal ad on PS and it hurt her so bad that she knew that she was crazy about me and I was the guy she wanted to spend her life with too. We've been back together solid since the 23rd of Dec., and I just got the ring to ask for her hand yesterday.
On New years eve I will ask her to be my wife, one year after our first contact. Wish me luck. Thanks for bringing us together.
Short period of time before meeting Larry. We are fortunate to live close to each other - only 20 minutes apart. But we most likely would have never met had it not been for Positive Singles. It's a great way for people in our situation to get to know each other. It's wonderful to just be able to date like other people do. We spoke on the telephone for about 1 month before we met in person. We met in April 2009 for cocktails at local PF Chang's restaurant. Things we're special from the beginning. We are truly blessed to have found each other.
Actually it is quite an amusing story. After joining you site as a last ditch effort for reclaiming a dating life after the fact. I posted a profile that had no picture and claimed i lived in a city about ten minutes from the small (mayberry) town I actually live in. I received a message from a member and we chatted for about two weeks before realizing that we were actually from the same town and he was my sons baseball coach two years prior. It made the transition from computer to actually meeting in person a very easy task. So, I do owe your site a thank you for enabling people in our situation the opportunity to meet.
Hi Positivesingles Support Team,
I met him in July when I joined the website. He found me on a search. Immediately I was attracted to him when I saw his wink. He looked so cute in his pictures. I read his profile and became more interested in who he was. We e-mailed I want to say twice, and then we exchanged phone numbers. After a month of talking I saved up some money and decided on a whim I was going to meet this guy. He lived about 533 miles from me ( Charlotte, NC to Pensacola, FL ) I wanted to know for sure I wasn't wasting my time. People can tell you just about anything you want to hear over the phone. So I drove down to Pensacola, got a hotel and met him the next morning. And when I saw him for the first time, it was history... I fell in love with him at first sight. It's so funny because I replay this exact moment in my head all the time. The moment when I know for a fact I fell in love with Calvin.
I swear it was something out of a movie. I had parked in the parking lot across the way from his barracks. I was leaned against my car, waiting on him to come out. And then I saw him... Dressed in his Navy NSU uniform, looking so handsome from afar...It was as if he was moving in slow motion. He smiled at me as he came closer, and then he waved. The closer he got to me the slower it seemed he walked. Everything else around him was a blur. The minute he was next to me, he dropped his bag down, swooped me up in his arms and kissed me. It was something magical. I can honestly say I had never before in my life experienced something so powerful. It jolted through my entire body. That first kiss is something I will always remember. We just smiled at each other after that and talked before he had to hurry away to class. But we both knew what we had felt. He tells me all the time that when he was walking towards me it was as if there was this aura surrounding, like a glow. And that I was the most beautiful woman he had ever layed eyes upon...
After that weekend, we continued to talk. I went to see him again, about a month later. That weekend was Halloween. We went to the fair and had a great time. We just bring the best out of each other, we always have so much fun together. He asked me to marry him Halloween night. Now yes, I can say it was very sudden, but when you know, you just know. And it felt so right. I of course said YES! It was so cute how he proposed. He even had his friend record it. Now the video came out pretty dark, but you can hear him asking me.
I went up to Massachusetts where he is from for Thanksgiving to meet his family. They all seemed to like me, and I was happy to meet such a nice, welcoming family. The day after Thanksgiving we eloped. We are planning a big wedding for Nov 27, 2010. We are currently in the process of moving in together hopefully by January or February, as I am looking for employment there. He lives in Norfolk, VA now, so that's a little closer to me. We couldn't be more excited and in love...
He and I talked for a total of 4 months before we eloped. We got married so we could be together without a shout of a doubt considering he is in the Navy. But foremost, we got married because we love each other. Because we understand one another. And neither of us feel like outsiders or different due to our circumstances. But I can say part of me is thankful for this Cursed gift, because without it, I would have never found a man so genuine and understanding. Someone who sees that there is more to me deep down, and he loves me just as I am. I can't say I wish STD's on people by any means. But my mistakes paved the way for something that only a few get a small glimpse of in life and that is true love.
I want to thank you so much for having this site for people to reach out for companionship. I went on this website looking for an outlet. For people who understood the emotional state I was in and exactly what I was going through. And I got more than I could have ever dreamed of, and that is the love of my life. I finally got my fairytale after all. So for those who think it's too late, it's not. And just keep trying. Love will find you when you are least expecting it.
We began communicating through your site in August of 2007.. We dated for a little over a year, and moved in together this February. We are plannning on a February 2010 marriage! Your site is the only way we probably would have ever met, even though we lived only 15 miles apart! Thank You for the opportunity Positive Singles! We will have a lasting love because of you.
I have met someone from your website who is wonderful and we are going to have a relationship together. I started communicating with someone on your site called Guillem last September and since then we have called, e-mailed eachother. In November Guillem came to London and we met up and had 7 wonderful days together. We decided that when Guillem comes to the UK from Barcelona in January to improve his english ( which is already very good) we will live together and as my profile said give " love a chance!" !!! I never realsied that I would fall in love with someone so wonderful!!! We will keep you updated but for both of us love could not have arrived in our loves at a better time - " dreams can come true"" Thank you so much.
That special some one has found me. Getting married. Thanks for having a site like this. We talked about 2 weeks before meeting. I live in nj and he lives in maryland. I went there to meet him. I actually took my time in getting back to him because i was wrapped up in some one else. They didn't feel the same though. They were also from your site..I moved on and got back to him. He was very nice on the phone so i took that 2 hour drive to Maryland. He is a very special person. Thanks to you i met him. We are now engaged. In less then 3 months. But when its right its right. Thanks again.
I am ending my subscription because I have met and started dating someone from your web site. Thanks! I can't think of any improvements you could make. I was worried after my divorce thrust me back into the dating scene but thanks to your web site I've met a wonderful, sweet, thoughtful and caring man who is interested in persuing a committed relationship. We are extremely happy together!
Dear Positve Singles, When I entered this website I never thought that I would meet the person of my dreams called Guillem. We had communiucated for several months before he flew to London so that we could meet in person. We had seven wonderful days of each others company and we both fell in love with each other - yes fairy tales can come true!!!! I finally got my Prince!!! As from January we will be living together in London and who knows where we will go from here but we are both very grounded and will plan what we both want.
Thanks once again
I only want to Thanks to P.S.for your support and a big committment toward HIV. I found my match weeks ago,and finally we came face to face with!! Now, We decide to share lifes pattern together and give love a chance .
Well, our first correspondence start about end of September , which was followed by phone calls often and Emails ,as well. As I had been planned to move to London next January , by issues of studies and work , so, we decided to meet each other last week in UK.
I had been booked my hotel (just in case...)and when we finally met at Gatwick ,we only confirm what we already knew: that was what we were expecting long time! Finally, we spent the rest of the days together ,which was great in all sense.
Plans for marriage? We didn?t talk about ;Our aim now,is to get along with this project of life, know each other better, and gives love a chance... Hopefuly ,so be it forever and ever.... Kindly regards to all PS. staff
I met someone amazing on your site and it has changed my life. Thank you!! I had zero expectations after many years with herpes and have never been married nor had children. Now it looks like that is not only a possibility, but very likely and I am in the best relationship I've ever been in (at the age of 36). I've recommended your site to other people in the same boat. Who knew I could find love on this site??!