It is a crutch. It does suck. So try harder. That's what I did and in about three months I found the best girl I have ever been with. She's in the same boat as I am and we meet on this site. When we found each other all the worries about what we got went away. They no longer matter. Good luck from never ceasing.
Advice to other members:
Don't wast time. Meet with people, but be careful. Be smart. Ask for papers before you jump into anything. The last thing you want is to add to your problems.