How to talk about STDs with a new partner?
We like to assume that we have rapidly changed the social norms but it is still pretty shameful to approach your new partner and talk about STDs with them. Sadly, it should be the least shameful thing to discuss as safety comes first. The last thing you want to do is have sex with some who might be a potential carrier of STDs. Approaching your new partner and asking him/her about how many people they have slept with is not sexy at all. It is especially confusing for women.
Having sex conversation and discussing STD does make you nervous but you can handle the situation maturely too. It is not impossible to do. Also, we suggest that you talk about it first and then go into having any sexual connection because a lot of people make the mistake of having sex and then discussing this issue with their partner. So, we are here to help you!
You can and you must discuss it with your partner, without any shame and nervousness. It is your right to put your safety upfront. And here are some ways to help you with how to talk about STDs with a new partner.
1. Simply ASK:
We tend to complicate the process largely. Don’t go around turns and don’t prolong the situation. Simply ask your partner whether they have ever had an STD or not. According to studies, people do tend to lie but many are honest about it as well. Also, many people might be unaware of the fact that they have an STD. they might just tell you they haven’t got one ever but they would be carriers without knowing. So here is what we recommend.
2. Get a Test:
If it is not a causal relationship and you both are really serious, considering getting the tests done. Also, get yourself tested too as this will make the process seem very normal for your partner too. If you have ever had sex with someone, get yourself tested before you go into a relationship with anyone. This will save you the hassle and shame too.
3. Talk about Prevention:
Sexual precautionary measures are crucial and they must be discussed before you indulge yourself in sexual activity. There are some vaccinations that can help you stay immune to different STDs. play safe and agree on using condoms before you both are obviously tested.
4. Ditch the Blame Game:
Don’t try to blame the person you have had sex with if you get STD. This is because more than 50% of people don't even know whether they have an STD infection or not. This is because they find it absurd to get themselves tested. This is why you need to take your precautionary measures with every partner that you indulge with.
No matter how much you love your partner and how badly you are seduced by them, you need to know your limits. Safe sex is the best. Also, it is recommended that you do not indulge in casual sex at all because that is the core reason why STDs are increasing rapidly. Before getting physically involved with your partner, get yourself and him/her tested. Still use condoms if you both are clear until you two are married.