• Should I Notify every Sexual Partner after I Diagnosed Herpes Positive? Posted by Admin on Dec 13, 2018

    Should I Notify every Sexual Partner after I Diagnosed Herpes Positive?

    Should I Notify every Sexual Partner after I Diagnosed Herpes Positive?

    According to experts, STD status should be shared between sexual partners as soon as a diagnosis is confirmed. Otherwise, you should be careful to use a condom and do not touch or kiss sexual organs. Panic and embarrassment after diagnosis of herpes are understandable. This is because infected people deal with the shock of the realization and take time to readjust to a lifetime of herpes’ occasional outbreaks. They also get prepared to live with the stigma from the society around them once the condition is public. This is the same case with most STI diagnosis. Due to the stigma, the patients are highly likely to slump into depression.


    Telling your partner about your condition is important. However, the timing depends on a myriad of issues. For example, if you are still in shock and need to withdraw from friends and family, you will need more time before gaining enough courage and confidence to open up about it. It should, however, not be debatable whether to tell your sexual partner because they are at high risk of being infected. To keep them safe, it is important to inform them as soon as you get the information so you can plan together for your future. When multiple sexual partners are involved, it gets complicated. The patient feels like they are giving up their personal and sensitive information to too many people.

     Informing your Sexual Partners about your STD status

    Admittedly, revealing the secret about an STI to a romantic partner is difficult. Starting the conversation is the scariest part because you will always be imagining the worst outcome. The fear of losing someone after these revelations holds back many people from telling their partners that they are infected with herpes. However, it does not have to be this way. Protecting your partner by keeping secrets will only lead to further damage because they will soon find out the hard way (through diagnosis after an outbreak). At that point, you may never be in a position to hold a reasonable conversation in sobriety.

    The biggest challenge among sexual partners is ignorance. Most people only learn about their STI condition after an official diagnosis. By this time, a number of people could already be infected especially when several partners are involved. Ignorance is costly because it poses detrimental effects such as infertility or cervical cancer. This is because neglecting the disease allows the virus to spread into sensitive regions of your body where controlling it would be difficult. It is, therefore, imperative that you are treated immediately or as soon as you are diagnosed.

    Importance of Telling your Partner

    Herpes is one of the few STIs without a cure. This means that if you will not tell your partner, they will soon find out because they will be infected. Moreover, if you are treated for an STI and they are not, you will be re-infected and suffer another outbreak.

    Some American states have strict laws that compel partners to reveal their past to their partners. It is, therefore, illegal in these states to refrain from disclosing your STI status or confirmed diagnosis to a sexual partner. The repercussions include a jail term. Some people have been sued for not revealing the past and current sexual status to their spouses. Although most states and other countries to do not have similar laws, it is your moral responsibility to tell your partner once you get confirmed diagnosis.

     It does not have to be intimidating. Although many people worry about losing their new partners to the revelations, this uncertainty is unwarranted. Your partner’s response is less likely to end the relationship if you are insincerely in love. Most people who were confident enough to tell their partners upfront without confrontation are proud of their decisions.

    Young people are mostly depressed about the rumors that will spread about their status. They care about their reputation and the peers' opinion at that age matters a lot to them. For this reason, they are most prone to keep the diagnosis confirmation a secret even from parents.


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