I signed up Saturday, and "found" him Saturday. We talked on the phone twice before meeting on the following Friday, at an Appleby's for dinner. He lives 7.5 miles from me which is such a huge bonus!! We have been together nearly everyday since.....he's met my 11 year old daughter, which is big for me, I don't normally do that unless I am interested, and I am rarely allowed to get to that point as they run once they hear the "H" word (who can blame them really). For once, it will be nice to get dumped because of ME, and not because of the disease. I am a great person with a lot to offer a person, and repeatedly getting dumped because of this disease, knowing I am a good, honest, hardworking person, really gets you down in the dumps and depressed. It's hard to explain, but I know many in my situation feel the same way.
I don't see him as a marrying type person, and I am fine with that. I am just happy to have found someone to be with, and hope it lasts.
As for tips....I think my huge plus was my profile. I had lots of feedback about it, guys liked it. I had 5 guys within a week that I was corresponding with. I met "G" first (how that happened I don't know as he works 80 hours a week), but once I met him I knew I wanted to see where this goes. Obviously, nothing is guaranteed, but my depression and mood has improved tremendously knowing that I can always come back to this site and find someone in this same boat, and that is SOOOOO huge!!! It is great not having that hanging over your head!!
His comment to me at one point was "I had just given up hope that I'd ever find anyone, and just accepted the fact that I was meant to be alone for the rest of my life". I felt exactly the same way, and it is such a horrible feeling.
I will keep you updated if any major changes happen, but for now and quite a time to come.....I am happy just the way things are!!
Again, thank you for this site!!!!!!!!
We both were diagnosed w/ herpes around 2001. I didn't know about this site, so I was constantly having the really awkward convoy w/ my dates of "I have something to tell you..." needless to say, it always ended the relationship. A former boyfriend told me about ps.com so I checked it out. Within 2 weeks, I had 2 dates & 2 weeks later, had a 3rd. Who knew that would be my last first date? We dated for 18 months, got engaged & now were married. So, although you make think life is over now. It absolutely is NOT. We both know we have herpes, but never have to hide it because we both know what we are going through. There IS life after STD's!
I have proven to myself time and time again that I can be in a relationship with someone. I have been in one relationship with someone who was infected and two who weren't. The reasons for breaking up were not related to my status in anyway. I date and I live a normal life. My status doesn't define who I am and I am not my status. My only probably is finding my soul mate, but who doesn't have that problem. My status will not keep me from love because I won't let it.
I met someone, Thank you! We corresponded a couple weeks before the first meeting. We live close to one another, so we met at a restaurant within a mile of my home, met for a couple glasses of wine and talked. We met in the first week of May 2010, and have been dating for approximately 2 1/2 months. We have both agreed that we don't see a reason to see anyone else, so at this point we have removed from the site.
Tips: Be cautious and careful. Meet at a public place. Don't disclose personal information too fast. Be safe and have fun.
I joined this site after having diagnosed with HIV. I was scared to meet an HIV new person and having to disclose my status to him. Not sure what his reaction would be. When I joined this site I met different people in the same situation with me and finally managed to get the real one for me. We are now dating and are madly in love. Check out for wedding bells soon!!
Another member from your site & I communicated via email for about a week, the spoke on the phone for another week before meeting in person. As soon as we met, there was instant attraction and a connection. We met at his house and went out to dinner. After dinner we hung out at his house until the wee hours of the morning, laughing, talking and getting to know each other more. We continued to see each other every night after that and fell instantly in love with each other. We plan on getting married and having the best life ever together forever!
Without this site I would have never have met him and I'd still be looking for my soulmate! I'm so happy to have found him! So...THANK YOU!
Love will find you when you least expect. I had no idea someone wonderful would wink at me from 1200 miles away. Not only did he wink at me, but he swept me off my feet!!! Our first meeting took place in Phoenix, it was the most romantic and easy love that two people could have created. It was so incredible, that I forgot about our "gift, that keeps on giving" having herpes. It was a blessing to have met such a wonderful gentleman!!! Thank you cupid and Positive Singles!!! Our journey is just beginning. We are looking forward to our engagement, marriage, children, and grandchildren. We will keep you postcard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I got on this site mainly to talk to other people with HIV. A lot of people like any other site just wanted an intimate relationship. So one day I decided to hang it up. I said that I would try one last time. Then I searched and contacted one more and he was "The One". Now we are married and totally happy. Never thought I would find my love on the internet. Thanks Positive Singles!
We communicated for a month, been dating for four now, living together, marriage in the works. We are very much in love, soul mates, it seems we've been looking years for one another although the search had really only recently started. Heck, we even like each other, best friends. Love to be near each other. Finish each others sentences. Exercise together. Many common interests.
Well, we really didn't think something like this could ever happen; meeting and falling in love. We thought we were domed because of the big H. We couldn't believe the connection we had. We are so grateful and happy together. Sex is great. Still watch for signs of infection and take precautions.
I have met someone from this site. The only thing I would change would possible be the radius of contacts. A minimum of 50 miles is a lot and more than I would be wiling to do. I was lucky and he was only 4 miles from me. He had dated several people from all around and we can't believe we were this close all the time. We have a very deep connection that is unbelievable. He came to me at a point that was very low in my life, just as I was about to give up on dating and after I was diagnosed. I can only imagine what our future holds, it is only going to get better. Our first date lasted 7 hours. We met the next day for another 7 hours and the next day for 14. It was effortless and perfect. Thanks for this site and helping me make this connection.
It's a happy one....I found someone on the site and it's been 7 months. The relationship is strong. We corresponded in late December and met Jan 10th this year. We didn't exchange many emails as we started talking on the phone. The chemistry on the phone was great so I drove (80 miles) to see her at a restaurant near her home... First day we had lunch and just talked for a few hours. Then we had several dates one right after the other. The distance from one another is a pain but we're spending most weekends together.
It's been 6 months and all is well. No plans for marriage, not sure either of us is up for that - we've both been married twice. Let's just say we're happy to have found one another and that the HSV2 we share isn't a problem.
I’ve met my future wife. Our wedding is set for next year. Yes I met her on here. Right when I was about to give up hope, she came into my life like a swift breeze. Yes there are ppl that are fake, lairs & those that play games. But there are a lot of real & sincere ppl on here also. But all the fakes need to exit immediately. There’s no need for them. Everyone deserves to be happy & treated right. And I’m happier than I’ve ever been. So hopefully you all will find what I've found. True Love. No games no BS. Good luck to u all.
Well I had been on the site for about a year. I had met a few people but didn't really click well with anyone. I got an email from Anthony about a month and a half ago. We met in person after emailing and talking on the phone for about a week or two. It actually turned out that I knew his brother.
We met at a restaurant during the day. It is a perfect match-we really feel like soulmates. We are very happy. Since he is 38 and I am 31 we have been through enough relationships to know when it is not the right one. We both feel that marriage is definately in our future but we are not rushing into anything right away.
We corresponded for a couple weeks before we met. We live about an hour from each other. We made plans to meet at my home, then go to a restaurant near my home for dinner. I felt comfortable enough to have him at my home but that was after we corresponded through email and talked many times over the phone. Since the first time we corresponded about a month ago, we have talked either by email or by phone each day. The process of getting to know each other is ongoing at this point. It's fun and as long as it continues to be fun and enjoyable, it's probable we will continue.
Obviously... we are not even close to plan for marriage! Like I said in my previous message, I honestly cannot think of any tips to offer as I think you do a great job with this site. I would be glad to offer any assistance in the future if I discover I have anything to add to what you already do. Thank you again for what you do --- Kathleen
I joined the site about a month ago, became a gold member, and new to online dating. I read the help forums. Within weeks I found my match on this site. Her profile was the same to mine. We emailed each other a few times, I gave her my number, she called, then we scheduled a date, met half way from both and it was magic from that point on. My advice for success: be yourself, read the forums, and for guys think with your head that's not in your pants.
Our first date was Italian food followed by walking a couple of miles in the rain. We both knew there was interest, so we made arrangements for a nice dinner.
After dinner and a trip to a comedy club, as I drove her home, I told her I enjoyed her company, and asked if she'd consider being exclusive with each other to see if a serious relationship would develop. She said yes.
A couple of weeks later, and its clear that yes, we're going to have a serious, long-term relationship. It is a bit soon to say, but I think it quite possible that I've met the love of my life.
Well, I had come across his page and thought him to be very attractive. His location said Atlanta, but I thought to myself, a little hello and a compliment can't hurt.
He had messaged me back, we exchanged a few messages and a few messages turned to us keeping in contact for 6 months (online through e-mails then eventually through text messages and phone). In that time he moved back to New York, where he was originally from and May 15-21, I took a trip to visit him. To seal the deal on whether or not we have something started. A little nervous and anxious, I was far from disappointed.
I live in Toronto and although many find distance a problem...I merely find it an obstacle, which means it can be conquered and when you've found that someone-nothing should ever come in between the two of you. And as we currently stand, I am his woman and he is my man. We are not seeing / dating others. In a week from Monday, I'll be back in NY visiting him for a second time.
This site not only got rid of the awkward conversation of having to reveal or come forward about our personal situations, but talking online helped get to know that person. In hopes that people are truthful and honest through conversation. But everything he told me was true, and I adore every part of who he is.
When I was younger I laughed at the concept of finding a partner online, but now as a woman I realized for the part I can't knock something until I try it. So here I stand, proud to say that through online, supportive sites like this... I've found my perfect match. Plus its all the more reason for me to get up and go to NY, get out of my city and wrap myself in his warm embrace.
Thank you for the support and opportunity. It gave me hope and has proven to me there truly is one out there for everyone.
We corresponded twice and exchanged phone numbers. Spoke with her the next day & made arrangements to meet at a coffeeshop that evening. Met, talked several hours, made a date to get together and having been seeing each other ever since. A rarity (for me) in someone exchanging phone numbers in so short a time, but a number of women want to cut to the chase and get things going by talking over the phone, which I appreciate much more than a long, drawn-out email (something I won't do anymore. It seems there are some women - quite a few - who have no intention of ever talking on the phone or meeting. They're what I call email-junkies... just want a pen-pal. I hate those types; they usually just broke up & are dipping their toes in the waters. Complete waste of time- like, what the heck is everyone here for, anyway? Not pen-pals, certainly). We have no plans for marriage at this moment. But a sincere, deep, monogamous relationship, yes.
Good fortune to you,
I found love. I really appreciate this site because it gave me the chance to meet others that are going through the same thing as me.
I was recently diagnosed and was having a really hard time dealing with it. This site provided a way to meet and make friends as well as a loving relationship. This site helped me turn a negative situation into a positive one. For that I thank you.
We met on the site at the end of November, spoke on the site for about 3 weeks before we exchanged email details, then after a week or so on msn we had a phone conversation.
I was living about 2 hours away when we started talking but I had signed a house contract to move in at the very beginning
of January down near him so when I moved down. Having spoken for just over a month we met up, we went to the pub at the start of the year and have been dating happily since. I like the way things are heading.