I think we're both at a point in our lives where we want that special someone, and this relationship feels right.

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I had just gotten on your site, and within a day a guy got in touch with me and asked me to call him. We had a fun, easy going conversation. But when we met a few days later at a Starbucks, I wasn't sure I was attracted to him. Conversely, he was sure that he liked me, and he just was so smart and sweet and sure of his feelings, that I warmed up to him. That's been a couple of months, but the relationship is growing. I will meet his daughter soon, and it's exclusive. It's too early to think of marriage. Right now, we're just enjoying each other's company and creating a foundation. But I think we're both at a point in our lives where we want that special someone, and this relationship feels right.

The one thing I did that might be considered a "tip" is that even though I wasn't sure I was that attracted to him, I kept communicating with him, when he reached out to me. I was honest about not being sure, and he was patient and didn't try to press me. And then one night, when we were driving to a restaurant, and I listened to how gracefully he handled his divorce, I appreciated his kindness and his maturity. We had actually gotten lost, trying to find this restaurant he wanted to take me to, so we were in the car longer than we were supposed to be. So he was talking longer and just telling me how his marriage and divorce had played out, and I was impressed by how hard he tried to make it work, even though it ultimately failed.

That night, I made up my mind that I was going to allow my feelings for him to grow. I also realized that I was a shellshocked from relationships that hadn't worked out, and that I was deeply afraid to take a chance. But that evening, I decided to enjoy the journey. In the weeks that followed, I really came to appreciate how sweet he is and how certain he was feeling about me. I haven't had that in a long, long time. And the fact that we both have HSV has made it more stable than relationships where one person has it and the other doesn't. In those situations, sometimes the fear factor starts to creep in and undermine a fledgling relationship. But like I say, this one is starting to develop rich roots.