After browsing the site for a week or two, I had only found one man whose profile and pic interested me. However, it said he had not logged in, in over a year. On the off chance he would get sent a notice, I decided to send him a short email and then basically wrote it off as a long shot.
Advice to other members:
Two weeks later he replied back; he was so open and honest right off the bat that I could only hope this would go somewhere. After emailing back and forth for about a month he finally convinced me to call him. From that night on we spoke everyday. Pretty soon he moved across the country to Colorado so we could actually 'start' dating. I remember when I went to the airport to meet him....when I saw him for the first time and he gave me this amazing smile, I knew that he was my soulmate. (Actually I think I knew before then but when I actually got to be near him...all I can say is he feels like home if anyone can understand that).
He met my children and after they (quickly) got over their reservations, everything fell into place that it was all so natural. A few months later we got married. Now my son has the father he never had but always deserved; and I have a husband I thought could not possibly exist. He is kind, sensitive, so caring and thoughtful and he does everything for me! He treats me and my son like royalty. Despite his bad boy appearance, he is perfection personified. Damn I am lucky!
Be honest and be yourselves. Don't try to find someone that you can change to fit you and don't try to fit someone else. I also would suggest not limiting your search to locals, mine was several hundred miles away :)