We correspond for about 3 weeks before meeting. First email, then after about 3 or 4 of those phone contacts. We hit it off right away, he's really funny and engaging and so am I apparently :) and by the end of the 3 weeks we were both in love based on the talks.
Advice to other members:
After nights of 3-4 hour phone conversations, he said I've got to come visit you, meet face to face and see what this is. He came out from Denver to L.A. for one day, to see me--flew in that morning, flew out that night--and we had a blast. We were both nervous maybe it wouldn't be as good in person, but it was. Since then I've been to stay with him in Denver and hiking in Boulder, and we went to San Francisco last weekend for a getaway. He's awesome :)
No plans for marriage but we've talked about it. He's starting a two-year class I told him about out here in Santa Monica, and looking into moving out to L.A. so he can focus on his studies and we can be together.
Thanks and Blessings to everyone looking for that special someone.
Funny because my profile had been up for probably 5 years, with very little interest and I had never met anyone. Had sort of forgotten about it. Then I got a wink from James and the rest is history. It was his first time on any online site, whereas I had put probably 9-10 profiles on different sites over the years, with only minimal results. One thing I did I think may have helped, was to make an Ideal Scene of what I wanted in a relationship, details and qualities I wanted, like: spiritually compatible, funny, masculine, financially stable, etc., and look it over regularly, sort of to energize it. I actually read it to James the other night so show him how I'd called him in :) Out of the 20 or so items I had listed, he met all but about 2 of the criteria--and we're working on those ;)