Never be too pessimistic to TRY!
I was really excited to find this site, except I was never good at talking to more than one person. But I made myself get on here and actually look around and give people a chance that I wouldn't be able to find on my own. After a failed first try, and a few dates with a very nice guy that I just didn't click with, I received an e-mail from Jon. He lived all the way in Georgia and I'm in Oklahoma City, which proceeded to make me think of every reason there would be no point in meeting him. But after a discussion with a friend, I decided to at least meet up with him over the holidays, give it a shot though I was 100% doubtful we would connect and I would ever see him again.
Advice to other members:
The instant he walked into the restaurant on our first meeting, my negativeness was taken down a notch. I thought the conversation might be difficult since we never spoke previously through e-mails to get to know each other, unlike prior dates I had been on. But our ideas and likes/dislikes and laughter came within seconds. Later, he talked me into meeting his sister and her friend at Groovys. I mainly went quite apprehensively and only because there is a confetti cannon. But by the end of the night, my cheeks were hurting from laughing so much. I have never in my pre-hsv years dated a man willing to dance to Footloose in private, let alone public around me. I was amazed and I still am. He continues to prove my negative nature wrong and surprises me even from a few states away. We will continue to see each other monthly, due to our jobs moving is currently difficult but is planned for the future.
Dating is difficult, and don't settle - ever! You know what you want and don't be afraid to ask for or demand it. That person is out there, and with everything that everyone on this site has been through, there is no point in hiding what you're looking for. Don't lie to yourself or others, people who are looking for something real, want someone genuine. You'll never find what you're looking for if you aren't honest about what you want.